New outlook on life

[txfatcat]

I dont realy know what has happened. I am stilll a little dazed and confused by the whole situation and everything  going on right now.   May be its just the vicadin that I have been on for the last 2 weeks.  Everything seems so different from typing this post to watching tv to playing with the Kids. I dont know what has happeneded to me. But I dont think that I have the level of ability to keep the fish like I have currently been keeping. Everyone is healthy but I am having alot of trouble with everything.

One thing I do know is that my love for fish keeping as stong as it is doesnt seem all that important any more. Its  Important but there are other things that weeigh on me a whole lot more for some reason. I am stilll a little loopy from all the meds and the accident.  Its that things are becoming more refined for me.    I dont realy understand this all so I will get down to it. I have been analyzing my fish keeping experience and experiences  and think it would be wise for me to have one tank only. I think I want to focus on frontosas olny at this time and am considering sellling everything else I have at this time. This would be tanks fish lights gear, pond equipment and fish and such.    I dont know that nmy heart is in it like it was at one time and for some reason I just cant think like I did and be as methodical as I was before the accident. Over the next few weeks I will be posting my colonies and equipment for sale. As for the friends and relationships I have made here.....Thanks to everyone who has helped me get to where I am now.....There are some of you who I can not say enough about. I condiser most of the people I have met here as my second family and that willl not change.   I just have to figure out where my head is and my health before continue to fish keeping as I have in the past.  

Thanks again for everyones support.

[alexarae]

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Chris,
I understand where you're coming from. David was the same way after his motorcycle accident...he re-evaluated alot of things.
I guess 2 months in the hospital will do that to you. Sometimes you realize that there are more important things.

Best of luck to you and your family. I'm sure that you'll figure things out with time.

[imagirlgeek]

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I respect where you are coming from.  You've been through a lot and I can only imagine that it was a life-changing experience.

As for trimming down...if you are at a place where you are unsure of what you want to do, keep me and guygeek in mind.  We'd happily do a 'foster' type situation...allowing you to step back from it all for a while and then have the option of picking up where you left off when you are ready again.  Of course, we'd also give your fish a happy home if you were sure you wanted to sell them.  I just want you to know that you have options with us, and we'll help out however you need.

[justdoit]

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Chris,  just glad you are here posting this conversation.   Healing takes time.     So glad to know you are on the mend.

[Ramius]

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Chris,

Alexa is right, a couple years back I had a pretty bad wreck out in humble. Due to the timing and circumstances of the accident I went for five days with most of the left half of my torso shattered and absolutly no pain medication.

Once I was able to get to a hospital and went through the processes there I had some time to think while I recovered. I had been spreading myself pretty thin in a lot of areas of my life and while I was covering a lot of ground, I was not really getting anything done.

Choices had to be made, and sacrifices with those decisions. My life circumstances were slightly different than yours, but the principles are still the same. So from one who has been where you are now, here is a thought that helped me along.

1. Consolodating down to one tank is not a bad idea. It will give you the ability to go back to the heart of your passion. It will allow you to put all of your time and energy into making that one environment absolutly the best it can be. It may even be a little more calming to slow your pace down some. This will help remind you why you got into the hobby in the first place. Not the reasoning, but the feeling you get from looking into that tank with awe.

2. To sell or not to sell. My personal opinion is, if finances and space allow, why not consider placing the items back someplace safe before selling them off. Just a thought to consider until you know that you know that you know you will be happy with the one tank. Nothing worse than getting rid of all that stuff then wanting it back a month later.

3. Move slow, before making any major life changes really sit and pray over them for a bit before following through with them. Mentally your in a really wierd place right now, only someone who's been there can truly understand. Just try to move slow with any big changes is all I'm saying.  

Thats pretty much it man, I hope you have a speedy recovery time. It may not seem like it now but this could actually be the catalyst for some very positive events in your life. Hear me now, believe me later.

-David

[fishlady]

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David,
There are stages that come into your life cycle after a traumatic event, and your right on track with yours. It's very sobering to wake up and realize that with the flick of a moment things could've turned out so different for you and your family. I too have awoken from such an ordeal at one time and I realized that there was a chance that I may have never opened my eyes from that. It was very upsetting to me. I sat and thought about what was the most important things to me. And of course as we all have different aspects in our lives that we consider more important. I totally understand your frustration with how things are moving around so turbulant in your mind at this time. I will agree with David. You should scale back and focus on one tank at the moment. You might definately want to take the Geeks up on their offer to house your things for you as you make these decisions. Either way know that your not alone out there. The people that you have met on here and befriended are right beside you. It's a good thing to remember how there is a supreme being watching over us all and putting people in our path that truly care about us. I for one consider you my friend and if you or your precious family need anything you've only to ask. Take care of you buddy....Grab the happy.....

FL

[PhishPhreek]

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Family is always #1
Do what makes you happy.
Fight the good fight

[jetchanic]

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Just take life one stride at a time bro.  You know im just right around the corner if you need help or just wanna talk.

[txfatcat]

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The geeks,   thank you for your offer as I could never do this not knowing how perminnent this could be.    This is however right along with you r good nature and love of the people around you and the sport. I can assure you that my fish will only goto the best"players" in our world and not the ones with the most  money

David,  I understand and thanks for the talk and help.  I am torn to say that I dont think that this is what it all is. I have been faced wit life decisions before and noyhing really like this. I dont know how to explain.  I will take things slow and your are correct n that its not about money or tme but lack of knowledge  I think.
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Please do not PM me with what or the items I have for sale.    They and it will all come up before the next few weeks.  As I srtaetd I will not be sellling my fronts. One more thing is that If I dont know you, know of you or you are nnot a person here that everyone here knows. Then please dont be offended but I cant sell you my fish until more research on you is done.  My goal is not just to find a home but and environment healthy for the long run for them to live.

Thansk agian for everyones support

[geoff_tropheus]

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You can always earn a dime, but you cannot earn back a second.

Do what you feel you must do for making you better for eveyone.

[Delock]

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Dude,

if you need anything let me know.

[greg_tsam]

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I've been down a different road but faced life changing decisions nonetheless.  Good to hear you are up and around and thinking of your next step in life.  Sometimes its good to let everything go and start over.  Good Luck.

[phoenixbetta]

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Chris,

     Its chris, dude you need anything you know we are right around the corner man, if you need help with anything.
I'm glad to hear you're out of the hospital, and made it through the whole ordeal. My best wishes to you and you're family!

Chris&Marty